Never confess your feelings

Couples embracing, Pic: Google images

A few years back I was one of the frustrated guys that didn’t understand how can I do all the right moves, say all the nicest things to girls but still not get the girl in the end; then end up falling to the dreaded friend-zone that has made a lot of brothers develop what I like to call, ‘gay tendencies’. I could not get the girls that I really liked, but had all the luck with girls that I wasn’t attracted to. It came to a point where I almost thought there was something wrong with me; especially when a girl that I dated dumped me for telling her I love her and showing her affection.

 As my confident plumaged and my self-esteem dipped, I start asking myself why is it that all the girls that I’m NOT interested in like me so much? Why is it when I start liking those girls that I wasn’t interested in initially, all of a sudden they all run? After a long conversation with myself and 4 beers later it finally hit me, I finally realised that if I talk with a girl that I don’t like I don’t think too much about what I’m about to say and try to make it sound better, I don’t convey messages that show her I’m interested in her, and finally I realised that I can practically say anything to a broad that I’m not attracted to and actually get away with it and worse, the broad will actually like the crap I just said about her in her face and want to have my babies.

After making that realisation, I started observing social behaviors. I watched the guys that I knew were successful with women and scored all the hottest girl in the neighborhood. To my surprise, my little observational research revealed that the guys that where chicks magnet actually showed no affection to their girls what so ever, this discovery that I have just made didn’t make sense to me. I ended up convincing myself that I should actually go and ask my neighbor Bongani how he does it because he was getting more action that a Rambo movie, now Bongani was no ordinary chick magnet. He was the ultimate Casanova, I’m talking about he was the one putting girls on the friend-zone, girls that where my dream girls at the time. That is why he earned the name Master bongs, which I use, referring to him.

What he told me was that, the worst advice I can get about getting a girl is when someone tells me to be myself. He also said girls believe they want one thing and quite frankly they are looking for the quite opposite of what they say they want. The words he told me that day opened my eyes and made me see the dating game differently.

 I realised that girls from my class, in the movies, basically all the girls in general always say that they want prince charming, a real gentlemen, a dude that will be a shoulder to cry on, open doors, and a guy that will listen, basically a guy that you will read about in all the romantic novels. But when I look at their boyfriends, I saw they are none of that, they are total jerk asses that don’t care about anyone else but themselves, and their penis of course. In fact, I remembered asking myself years ago, before I even had a chat with the great one, Master Bongs. What is it that these girls see in these jerks they dating because what these guys do is treat them like crap.

The master told me that he is not immune to love, what he does is when he sees that he is starting to catch feelings, he don’t walk away, but he runs away and never calls again to avoid heart ache. OK I’m quite against that advice because I believe we should give love a chance. Anyway, that’s when I started changing my approach, buy that I mean I became less affectionate, I didn’t talk about my feelings, I made sure that I don’t show a girl that I love her even when I am deeply in love. I’d walk away even when my heart wanted me to stay. All of that didn’t make any sense to me, but to the females it was magic. In parties when we all drunk I acted like sex is the last thing on my mind and that actually made me more desirable to them female.

Now what I’m basically trying to say to all you niggaz out there, never talk about feelings to girls or be emotionally attached unless you truly sure that the feeling you have towards that particular girl is mutual, because if you do you are shooting yourself in the leg. All these things that I have talked about which are not logical work like a charm to females and it’s what they like for some reason that is still beyond my comprehension. Now I’m not saying all broads are like that, but I’m saying most of them are like that. So have fun and stay pimping, never confess your feelings too early in the game unless you planning on marrying the girl. Show love but not too much, be romantic in your own right not the way they do it in romantic movies and your girl will love you forever.